finally posted December 9, 2015
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At my cousin Norm's home in Ann Arbor, Michigan prior to our Celebration of Lori's Life Garden Party. Dad is in front , L-R Linda and Dan, Julie, Shirley, Mary, and Norm's wife Ilene. Back row L-R Joseph, Norm and Ilene's son, Jim, Norm, Dave and Don. It was an evening filled with joy, as Lori had wished. |
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the road has taken on a different meaning for us this summer.
Instead of up and down the mountains, or across the barren desert, or
ooing and aahing along the coastline, we have been traveling through
what the “Michiganders” call the Irish Hills. Hills? In
Michigan? Tall dunes maybe, but no, not hills!
During
our first month here we made the trip from southwestern Michigan to
Ann Arbor and back at least 12 times, taking care of what needed to
be done at Lori's, Julie's sister who passed this spring. Lori was a
single lady (with a boyfriend) who lived in a 12 room house full of
“stuff”. Lots of clothes, art work everywhere, and furniture
(OMG one neighbor told us that he helped her carry a couch to the
basement and it was her ninth). Lori liked things! She used to tell
stories of her college days when she just loved to go out the night
before “trash day” and find all the great stuff (furniture) that
people were actually throwing away! She had so many interesting and
beautiful things, showing the real artist side of her personality.
Julie,
Mary, and Linda spent many tearful days sorting through Lori's
things. It
is truly sad discovering how the precious and meaningful items anyone
spends a lifetime accumulating and cherishing, that simply devoid of
memories, lose their importance to someone else. When someone is
single, the significance and meaning behind things is not easy for
others to understand. Why was that rock on the shelves in the dining
room? What is the meaning of a drawer of buttons, ribbons, and
matches? What do you do with the boxes full of awards and
certificates she accumulated for doing special things for special
people! The last couple of years Lori attempted to identify items
she truly treasured and to let it be known who she wished to have
these things. However, it just became too much of an emotional task
for her, and the division was left to the three sisters. Their
brother Don was very grateful that they handled that huge task, as he
was, and is, handling the complicated legal sides of
everything.
We have been so blessed to have Julie's cousin Norm and his wife Ilene living in Ann Arbor. They are a very large part of this family. They were so close to Lori and when they offered to have Lori's wished for Garden Party in their beautiful back gardens, we were so happy. It was such a special final gift to her.
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A light moment in downtown Ann Arbor, Julie, Mary and Linda. |
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Two years ago, following my Father's death, we closed up
the house my parents had lived in for 69 years, and attempted to
distribute things to those we felt would love and treasure them.
Last year we sold our “stick” house and attempted to distribute
things to those we felt would love and treasure them. This year we
closed Lori's house and attempted to distribute things to those we
felt would love and treasure the thought behind them. WE ARE DONE.
The last few weeks we have just sorta sat and stared and felt like
doing nothing. It is truly amazing the complete exhaustion one feels
after such an ordeal.
Lori
loved her neighbors and was always doing things for the children.
She had recently installed a “Little Free Library” in her front
yard, a place that she and they shared books. There was always
someone sitting on her log bench reading, often a parent and a child,
or choosing and placing books. It was a real gathering place and we
were so pleased when her next door neighbors, the
Page family, asked to have it placed in their yard to continue in
her name.
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Lori's gift to her neighborhood children, a Little Free Library. |
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Our nephew Joshua's daughter Avry, reading a book in Aunt Lori's yard on the reading bench. |
We
were hoping to sit back and enjoy being in one place for the summer,
but as with all great plans, that didn't happen. The campground we
had planned to do our 'sitting back in' was full when we got to
Michigan. So we opted for a different campground and attempted to
settle down, however, that didn't work out. I got to sit back and
relax. Julie, however, was gone to Ann Arbor. After we were here in
Michigan ending our ninth week, we realized that Julie had spent a
total of four days in the campground. Not too much sittin' and
laxin' for the “old girl” this year.
If you remember we had a
trailer tire blow-out as we were leaving Montana back in June. While
Julie was out doin' and not sittin' I took the trailer to Middlebury,
Indiana (40 miles) twice. Once for an estimate, and the second time
to have the damage fixed. I also moved the trailer from our original
campground to our desired campground in Berrien Springs when a
campsite opened up for us.
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Julie enjoyed the beach as often as possible. She says it feeds her soul. |
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Sunset at St. Joseph's Beach with cars headlights heading home, a children's large play fountain on the left and the Carousel House in the right foreground. The sun setting over the big Lake is a show you never tire of. |
We
have loved being able to visit with family and friends, something
that we missed while on the road. Luckily we were able to squeeze in
a trip to Ohio/Indiana to see kids, grandkids, great-grandkids, and
friends. Then after finishing up in Ann Arbor Julie was able to make
Doctor and Dentist appointments all packed in one week, so we escaped
for lots of poking and prodding by various Doctors of various parts
of our anatomies. (fun!) All is well and we can head out on new
adventures with confidence that we may be older, but are pretty
doggone healthy.
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Great - Grandaughter Kelsey Rae |
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Great Grandson Lucas and Great Grandaughter Lauren with friends |
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Dad with Flynn, Avry's little brother. |
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Grandson Max playing with hats at The Carousel and Children's Curiosity Museum | |
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Dad with Tammy and her two, Grandaughter Alexandra and Grandson Zachary |
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Nana and Alex |
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Kara, Max and Jack, playing together |
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We
took a day to do something fun and drove to Saugatuck, Mi, about an
hour north, and went on a Dune Buggy ride. It was a cooler day and we had a great time.
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An empty dune buggy in the dunes |
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The views out over Lake Michigan from the dune tops was just beautiful. |
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Enjoying the afternoon in the dunes |
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Some climbing got us to the top of the dunes. |
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Julie
grew up in the St.Joe area, but has not lived here around family
since she left in the fall of 1967. She is really enjoying (when she
can) being around family for the first time during her adult life.
One of our great pleasures has been being able to take her Dad down
to the beach and play cards. For those who know us, you know that
Julie “always” keeps score and as “always” she wins!!! It
isn't that she wins all the time, it's just that “quiet, wicked”
laugh she has after winning! Al loves to play cards, his favorite entertainment.
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Al and me having a chat before lunch and cards. |
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Dad and Julie getting ready for a game of "65". |
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Lion's Beach, St. Joseph |
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Leaving
Michigan we stopped in Goshen, Indiana for the annual Montana Rally.
Always great friends, great food, and great times!!! We spent 10
days there enjoying the surroundings.
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Lined up at the Montana Rally in Goshen, Indiana. |
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It's Fall in Amish Country, Shipshewana, Indiana. |
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Shopping in Shipshewana |
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Sunset over the Montana Rally. |
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Our
first year on the road has been to say the least, fantastic. It has
allowed us to check a whole lot of things off our bucket lists.
There are still a few things left, so we have decided to soldier on
for more! The one big question we had was finances. Could we really
live cheaper on the road than we did in our stick house, or at least
close to our usual expenditures.
In
an effort to enhance the wonderful USA we have found that we eat out
more, so +. Whenever we could we stayed longer at a campground for a
cheaper per night cost, whether it was a weekly or monthly rate, it
helped. Fuel costs - this first year we spent $5400 on fuel, but we
traveled 21,000 miles! We have been told that it really is cheaper
to live on the road than in a “stick” house but I had my doubts –
I hate to say so but as always Jim was right!!! (that note was
written by Jim of course!)